When I was telling a good friend recently about losing someone close & important in my life - he shared the following with me. It really lightened my heart.
He said - when you lose someone really close to you, you experience a lot of Grief. Then they explained that Grief isn’t exactly sadness.
It is the continued Love for that person with no where to go.
That was something I never thought about. You take that Love and share it with others. Some of the Love still / always follows the one you lost, and some is spread to others thru sharing with them.
Grief is weird. You nailed it. It’s more multi-dimensional than “I’m just gonna be sad for a day or two.” It comes at you from directions you didn’t even know existed. We’ve all heard people say we all need to learn to stop/slow down/etc. Grief leaves you no choice in the matter, but it helps you adapt your mindset to being more present.
When I was telling a good friend recently about losing someone close & important in my life - he shared the following with me. It really lightened my heart.
He said - when you lose someone really close to you, you experience a lot of Grief. Then they explained that Grief isn’t exactly sadness.
It is the continued Love for that person with no where to go.
That was something I never thought about. You take that Love and share it with others. Some of the Love still / always follows the one you lost, and some is spread to others thru sharing with them.
I love this framing - thank you for sharing!
You are so right - grief is weird and our culture of individualism and consumption has warped us.
Love the Dollar General sweatpants detail!
Grief is weird. You nailed it. It’s more multi-dimensional than “I’m just gonna be sad for a day or two.” It comes at you from directions you didn’t even know existed. We’ve all heard people say we all need to learn to stop/slow down/etc. Grief leaves you no choice in the matter, but it helps you adapt your mindset to being more present.